this drippy cold rain is bothersome and i admit i am part of the problem
by beanalreasa
Source: this drippy cold rain is bothersome and i admit i am part of the problem
Whoa.
Though I did not expect this post to go in the direction that it eventually goes, I maintain that this post may give others some food for thought.
bloodteethandflame 
I feel for people who find themselves either currently in, or in some process of leaving, an abusive relationship. I have a close friend who I am currently trying to help find her way out of an abusive marriage … it’s a mess, and although I’m thousands of miles away, it seems I’m one of the very few men she will actually trust. The pain and sorrow she has had to experience is an outrage … not just because she’s a friend, but that anyone should enter into a relationship with love and trust, and have those most precious qualities and emotions betrayed. I feel the same for abused children (of which I was one) – it is an absolute outrage.
At some point in my own life, I stopped trying to contain the anger I felt at my own situation while growing up. Being taught to contain that anger, not to express it … this was a relic of my upbringing, and only served to continue playing into the hands of those who abused me. I broke with this, and allowed my rage to see daylight. Since then, I can’t say I’ve noticed a day filled with sadness for what happened to me. Eventually, the rage died down, too; and I frightened far fewer people while out walking around by not radiating anger and menace anymore. For me, at least, that emotion had to run its course.
The article you linked to was a well-written one, and I am giving some consideration to giving the literature cited in the article a read. As it is, I have already linked to the article in an E-mail I sent to my friend. It’s time-appropriate, as today she has appointments with two counselors. Thank you for posting this … and for what it’s worth, whatever it is that has happened in your life that causes you to connect with this article, I’m genuinely sorry. No one deserves to be treated that way.